Don't Settle: Why Dating an Emotionally Unavailable partner Is a waste of time

Ladies, never take on the burden of fixing a man. There's a difference between supporting a partner and trying to fix them. Supporting a man means encouraging his personal growth and being there for him emotionally as he takes responsibility for his own improvement.

However, I strongly advise against dating someone who needs to be told they have to fix themselves. A person's willingness to grow and improve should come from within. Trying to fix a man means taking on the responsibility of changing him-often at the cost of your own well-being.

Most men who are emotionally unintelligent tend to be avoidant or narcissistic, making them emotionally unavailable. These types of individuals often struggle with deep emotional connetion, leaving you feeling unheard and undervalued. When I researched avoidant and narcissistic men due to my own dating experience, I realized I felt sorry for them.

I dated an avoidant for three years, hoping I could help him connect with his emotions, but it is not my job to fix him-no matter how bad , I felt, I had to let go. Those three years left me emotionally drained. While there were good moments, his emotionally unavailability constantly triggered my inner child wounds because my father was also emotionally distant, and I unconsciously sought love from men who mirrored him.

Instead of investing your energy into changing someone who isn't emotionally ready, focus on yourself and the kind of relationship that truly nurture and fulfill you

Signs You're Dating an Emotionally Unavailable Man

• He Avoids Deep Conversations

  He keeps things surface-level and changes the subject when emotions come up.

  
  

• He Sends Mixed Signals

  One day, he's affectionate and engaged; the next, he's distant and uninterested.

  
  

• He's Inconsistent with Communication

  He texts or call when it's convenient for him but disappears for days without explanation.

  
  

• He Prioritizes Independence Over Intimacy

  He values his space to the point where emotional closeness feels like a threat.

  
  

He Relies on you for Emotional support but Doesn't Reciprocate

You become his therapist, but when you need emotional support, he's unavailable

Dating an emotionally unavailable men can feel like chasing a moving target-he gives just enough to keep you hoping but never enough to fulfill you. If this sounds familiar, it;s important to ask yourself: Are you trying to fix him, or is he actually capable of growth? If not, it might be time to choose yourself.